Love hard, be imperfect

As a disclaimer: This entire entry is aimed towards the female population but can be read by men. Go ahead and change the perspective if you like; or just enjoy! :)

I found this yesterday and realized that Bob Marley put into words a few of my beliefs. I think if girls could really understand what he is saying, then love wouldn't be so hard or the expectations so unattainable.  This life isn't meant to be a fairy tale.  Being swept off your feet doesn't mean someone coming along and taking your breath away with beautiful words and a bouquet of flowers. A magical evening of dancing and romance aren't needed for love to blossom--not even love!--just a beautiful relationship moving in that direction!

Let's pick this apart a little bit. I haven't done this for awhile--school has been out since May :) You're not perfect enough to be the center of his world so much that he is constantly thinking of you. Hopefully by the time you were 12 you figured out that the world doesn't revolve around you. That doesn't change when you find a partner in crime; a better half. His world includes a job, friends, hobbies, family, you, and other things. Hopefully your life includes similar broad categories to occupy your time. If he is all you can think about and your world revolves around him--you better check yourself.

You aren't there to change him. You aren't there to pick him apart and analyze him.  You are there to accept who he is. He gave you a piece of himself knowing full well you could hurt him but he let himself be vulnerable anyways. You did the same. Respect that. I repeat, respect that. Because that is not something you take lightly or just play around with.  You trust that through thick and thin. As you get to know him more, you will know what to expect from him. If you expect more you will only be let down. And really, you're letting yourself down because you let your fantasies get the better of you. Just chill out and be happy. 

If love is there, you better hang on and love hard, as Mr. Marley says. He'll never be perfect and neither will you--but the two of you can conquer the world together if you are perfect for each other.

over and out

A return to the past

I wrote this in the "notes" section on Facebook in response to a prompt about a year ago. I just recently heard someone say they gave their whole heart to one other person and yada yada yada. SO, I remembered this and wanted to share it on my real life blog as opposed to the flimsy Facebook notes. Plus, I'm feeling narcissistic enough to believe that those that have read it already will actually want to read it again ;)  Thanks all!

Name something you gave away that can never be replaced. 

I first read this question about 2 months ago. I turned the idea over in my mind for a long time, often at random times. Certainly it was nothing material. I could give my iPod touch away and get another. True, it wouldn't be the exact one I had, but I can replace it. I can replace just about anything material-aside from the quilts and blankets made for me by grandma. Trust me, I haven't lost those. So I turned to the less materialistic side of life. What did I come up with?

I gave away my heart, and it cannot be replaced. 

I don't have some sob story about a guy ripping my heart out and stomping on it. Yes my heart has hurt, it has been bent. It has not been broken though. When I say I gave my heart away it means that as I have grown, bits of my heart have been taken, changed, and my original heart cannot be replaced.  My family, my best friend, the regulars at work, my coworkers, my ex-boyfriends, my pets and ALL my friends have taken bits of my heart and made their impression. My heart is a mosaic of people who have moved me, taught me, laughed with me, and hurt me. As memories take over I feel a twinge in the part of my heart where that memory was made and who was there. It's hard for me to believe that a person can give their entire heart to one other person because there is more than one person you love in life.  The cliche line that "I gave my whole heart to you" (generally said to a lover) seems a little overwhelming and, quite frankly, sad. Your heart should be shared with everyone who loves you, cares for you and would never give up on you. When you look back on your life, or even reflect on it now, I hope you see not one person holding your heart, but the multitude of people in your life. Everyone you love deserves their place in your heart forever.

I'm not sure that much of that makes sense, but that's the best I came up with. Love you! 

over and out

I smell luck

I know I'm one of the lucky souls in this world because I can go to my best friends and ask them anything. They'll give me an honest answer. It won't always feel good and sometimes tears will jump to my eyes because the truth hurts, but at least they didn't lie to soften the blow. They'll give me advice when I ask for it, but they won't overstep their boundaries either. 


I know I'm one of the lucky ones because I have a sister who will fight with me hard and who I will fight just as hard with. We'll spit names at each other and if looks could physically injure we would both be in rough shape, but we can turn around in the same day and patch things right up. We fight hard but love harder, and I've found that makes a really strong relationship. 


I know I'm one of the lucky ones because I've found a boyfriend who will let me be ridiculous in public and just laugh. He won't ask me to stop. He'll argue with me when I'm being stubborn or rude though, and I think that's a really good thing too because theirs nothing good about repressed emotions. I feel pretty lucky to be caught up on a good one for once. 


I know I'm one of the lucky ones because I get to travel with my family this weekend to northern Minnesota and just relax. I'm lucky enough to take a couple days off and just breathe for a couple days.  


I know I'm lucky because I have slowly taken this summer to find out that I can live in the moment more easily than ever before. Oh, it will get harder when school starts. It's always harder when life is more challenging, but I think that since I've made a conscious effort to improve it will be easier. 


I also have a job....which is pretty cool too, and I know I'm lucky to have a job in this economy. Speaking of--time to get ready. 

over and out